Okay, I'm going to open a whole can of worms here.

Here they come, wringling out in all their mud-covered glory.

So, I'm a man, and I feel like men can't win.

First of all, I've never heard a man talk about sex in the way that you portray.

I have never said: I'm going to destroy that pussy baby.

I have said: Give it to me baby . . . I want that pussy.

She said: It's yours. My pussy is yours.

I said: that's my pussy, and I slapped her ass.

I don't want to own a pussy. It's not mine. I understand that. It is not my property or possession, but when my GF and I are having sexy time, I like to feel like that pussy is mine. It turns me on to say: that's my pussy.

Like I say to my GF: you're my baby.

And, I do like to come on her face. Maybe it has something to do with dominance, I'm not sure, but it turns me on to feel like in that moment, I am dominant.

And, I don't mind when my GF throws me on the bed, rips my shorts down, and tells me: that's my dick and I want it inside of me NOW.

The roles are reversible.

But, there's this stereotype out there that men are cretins, that we talk about women like they are trash, in demeaning and disgusting ways.

I've never seen it, in all my travels as a male, with all my different friends and friend groups. Most of the men I know are rather meek about women and sex and sexuality. I'm not in the bedroom with them, so maybe they do a whole Jekyll and Hyde thing once the bedroom door closes.

There's one guy I know, Ray, and he used to talk about the physical violence that happened when he and his GF were intimate, but he said she wanted it as much as him. I don't know if I trust him -- he's kind of a slime ball and it didn't surprise me that he was into the super rough stuff.

There are always those people out there, the outliers, the ones on the fringes, way beyond any conventional norms.

And, I've never hung out with jocks, that personality type, and maybe these are the guys you are referencing.

I will say though: I once had a female colleague, mostly a stranger, send me an unelicited email saying: I want to fuck you until you can't walk straight, until you're walking like a cowboy.

She wasn't lying. That's what she wanted.

I'm sorry if I have missed the point or offended anyone -- that's not my goal.

I'm a male and I'm just tired of hearing about how awful males are all the time. And all this awfulness about males has not been my experience as a male. I know it's out there, the male awfulness, I just don't think it's the majority of males.

I think there's a good argument in this essay for some open-mindedness and open-communication between couples about what truly and honestly turns them on, because if you can imagine it, somebody out there is turned on by it.

TL;DNR.

I'll stop here.

Peace.